I ran into an ex-Tinder match…

…it wasn’t at all what I expected.

@xeniabogarova

It was quite obvious that there was something on my profile that he didn’t fancy, as the conversation immediately dwindled.

So, in an attempt to save myself any additional embarrassment, I decided to block him. It made me feel quite shit at the time, but I realised pretty quickly that if he is this superficial to begin with… I can only imagine what he’ll be like later on. I decided that this is just saving my future self from inevitable heartbreak.

…one of the trainers ask me what her name is, and of course, I blanked.

We’re all sat outside in the indoor/outdoor area, filling 4 of the 6 tables. I look over to the far end where there is a projection on the wall displaying “9Rounds Quiz night”. To the right of it, is the guy who is hosting the quiz night, who is without a doubt the guy I had matched with on Tinder and blocked on social media. I take a moment and try to figure out how best to respond to the situation… my mind is racing… does he recognise me? Should I say something? Do I acknowledge that I recognise him?

The pressure I put on myself on how I “should” act around him is just a preconception that was made up and held up by societal norms and expectations and is not mandatory. I can choose to treat this human being just like any other human being.

I can’t say that I ran up to him and greeted him with a warm embrace or anything, but I can honestly say that there were no negative or harsh feelings towards him either. And I must admit that the situation definitely worked out in my favour. I was looking great and feeling great and not worried about anything else besides truly living in the moment.

Passionate about learning from others, travelling, nature, connection, and enjoying life.

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